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I know it's the season of hope, happiness and ho-ho-ho. But I have a complaint to make. And I'll just say it upfront so those of you not interested can just turn away- it's about sexism
... and well intentioned people who make carelessly sexist remarks.
Case in point: this conversation that happens to me with surprising regularity.
Me: something something something "my boyfriend" something something...
Other: Oooh, a boyfriend, eh? What does he do?
Me: He's getting a PhD in Engineering.
Other: OOOOOOoooooHHHHhhhh. You should totally marry him.
3. What about him? If I were a modern, caring, sensible guy I'd be a little peeved to hear people tell my girlfriend to marry me, based solely on my future career prospects. Don't guys deserve to be loved for their good qualities, just as much as girls deserve to marry for love? I think that's pretty much the basis for equality between the sexes, when it comes down to it.
I don't normally go off on feminist rantings on a day to day basis. In general, I'm pretty optimistic about gender equality. But as any romcom can tell you, marrying for money is not a good idea. And encouraging young women to do so, and in turn devaluing their own economic and social worth, is hazardous not only to them, but to society as a whole.
So people, I'll leave you with the immortal wisdom of Destiny's Child: Independent Women
Rock on, sisters!